Ep.2: Hurtful Comments

Hey blog readers.

Today is Ep. 2 of Controversial Subjects, but it isn’t really controversial so I’m thinking that I’m going to actually change the name of it to something else like “Let’s Talk about it.” If you have any thoughts about it just post them below in the comments.

For those of you (Josh) who don’t know how to post comments this is a step by step guide for you.

1. Go to the bottom of the post.

2. Click the comments button

3. Click in the white box and type your comment

4. Then click the Comment as drop down menu

5. Then click whichever option you would like (generally it’s either Name/ URL or Anonymous)

6. Then click Post Comment and you’re done!

So now that you know how to post a comment I want to talk to you guys about hurtful comments.

 

 

 

I personally have been called/ told many things:

· I’m a liar

· Fake

· Bitch

· Whore

· Slut

· Manipulator

· Stupid

· Ugly

· Can’t sing

· Bad to look at

· Fat

· Can’t write

· Can’t draw (true)

· Lesbian

· Won’t amount to anything

· Baggage

· Moocher

· Gold digger

· Horrible person

· Stuck up

· Lazy

· No work ethic

I mean I’ve literally been called every name people could think of. My philosophy is that people do this to make themselves feel better about whatever short comings they have by putting you down. They think about what will cut you to the quick and hurt the worst so that they can have some power over you, and to be honest, the majority of the time it works. It hurts your self confidence, self respect and self worth. It can eat you up inside until you start thinking that they may be right.

However, I think the worst thing is when it’s someone you thought liked you that calls you all of these horrible things. Or if it’s someone you trust, respect or even look up to that it’s the absolute worst. You feel like your perception of that person is crushed and you just don’t know what to do about it. You just want everything to be the same that it once was, and to forget that they just made you feel so horrible.

I know that for me I felt the worst when I was told that I wasn’t going to be anything and that I was lazy, a gold digger, a moocher, and had no work ethic. It’s like that person didn’t know me at all, and it hurt because they’re someone I have to see all the time. How are you supposed to look at someone the same when they just shattered who you thought you were with one comment?

Now don’t think it’s an easy fix to just ignore them. Those comments can stick with you. They take down every defense barrier that you have and shatter it into pieces, and it takes a lot of time to build your walls back up and to get all the self respect that you lost when they said it. Some comments can make you a totally different person than you were before.

How do you feel about hurtful comments? I know that I hate when people are hurtful to me because I’m trying not to be hurtful to anyone else. What do you do to try and combat them? What’s the worst comment you’ve ever given/received?

 

Be courteous and say nice things,

Kristen